I love, love, love this time of year. Jay and I even got married on Halloween because we felt like it was the best way to celebrate fall and our love for each other all at the same time. This Halloween will be our 13th wedding anniversary. I can't believe that at 33 years old I have been married to this man for 13 years! We have been through our fair share of hard times, but looking back, it is the love, commitment and sheer will to be together and make our family work that sticks out when I reflect on our marriage.I used to think that once you got married, you could stop working at your relationship. I now know that the work is just beginning once you are married. Merging two people's lives that come from totally different backgrounds into one is hard enough, but when you add your own children to the mix it gets even trickier. I think the main reason that we have made it this far is our instistance on communication. We make time for each other and we tell each other what is going on. When I do something he doesn't like, I know about it and if he does something I don't like, he knows about it and is reminded of it for years. :)
We have also learned each other's strengths and weaknesses. I know what he is good at and he knows what I am good at and we aren't resistant to letting each other take the lead on the things we are best at. I know that I suck at managing the finances, so he is in charge of that. I know that he sucks at making plans and arranging appointments, so I handle that. We both check our egos at the door and when problems do come up, we try to fight fair. Try being the operative word here. We aren't perfect and we have made thousands of mistakes along the way. But, it is those mistakes that have bonded us closer and closer to each other through the years.
So, here's to another 13 years and maybe even 13 more after that.
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